EMPATHY AS A LIVING - DON'T! MY DAY. HOW'S YOURS?

[Harvestgoddess]

Im really very sorry to read about this poor family . I think what your doing for them is fantastic and by the sounds of it they are very lucky to have you on their side , I hate reading this and not actually being able to do anything to help but offer you my support it somehow dosent seem enough
But all my love goes to yourself and this family and i hope everything works out for all involved

[celticsky]

I think you need HUGE
A special pill
and a few words of wisdom to help deal with all the bureaucrats that you have to deal with

[beajie]

What can I say? Last night I'd had enough of battling, but then I came here.

I knew you were all wonderful, but now you've brought a couple (or more) tears to my eyes. I feel privileged to be amongst such loving people.

BB you were right! I always recommend writing it down as a way to burn off stress hormones. It usually works.

remaha - what can I say? You exalted me. That's a spectacular gift. Thank you so much.

Dogtired - thanks for the 'bodder' info! Frisky, you're lovely. Harvest - empathy is ALWAYS enough, especially yours. You've got an abundance of it. Celtic - that made me laugh out loud. I wish I knew how to do those graphics on a Mac!

Lynw, today mum put in a formal complaint to the LEA, backing up the original complaint to the governors she made 4 weeks ago, and which they haven't got round to yet. She's also put in a formal complaint to the Performance manager for the County schools. The EWO has been with her all day, helping, and I spoke to another friend of mine who has Asperger's and three children on the spectrum who has also been through the mill with educating HER youngest (gifted, autistic, CAPD) and who said that the behaviour of the headmaster was constructive exclusion, which is what mum's told the LEA. So the battle lines are now drawn, and we'll see what tomorrow brings. I don't think mum can cope with much more. Still, the 11-year-old is ecstatic because he's now learnt how to tie his school tie, and we're all celebrating.
xxx

[jane72]

Blimey, not sure I could cope with all that, much admiration for you.

I spend many an afternoon in the school playground listening to the most prejudiced clap trap about my son's class mates from virtually all the mums of the kid's in his class, it drains me of all faith in human nature.

There is a particularly high percentage of boys in his class about a 2:1 ratio boys to girls and a few of them have either developmental, physical or behavioural difficulties (or combinations thereof).

I hear complaints that 'this kid should be expelled' 'this kid shouldn't be allowed a wheelchair' (that one gets me everytime) 'this kid's mother is a bad parent' etc etc.

I do make my views known on the subjects, but invariable I'm ignored or looked at like i'm somekind of wierdo. It feels like banging me head against a brick wall sometimes.

In most of the cases it is the school that is at fault in the way they have dealt with the behaviour, punishing the whole class and keeping them behind because the kid with ADHD has thrown another tantrum. So I guess I do understand how the parents would form these opinions, they just don't listen to reason and can't see it from the other side of the fence.

I go home totally drained and feeling useless for not making more of a stand, but then If I did I would be outcast because I have not found anyone else to ally myself with on these issues.

Then I come on here and see messages from you, beaji, and my faith in humanity is restored again.

Without lynw1 to talk to and keep my sanity and some fantastic people on this forum, I think I would go insane.

Mucho respect!

[lynw1]

beajie said:

What can I say? Last night I'd had enough of battling, but then I came here.

I knew you were all wonderful, but now you've brought a couple (or more) tears to my eyes. I feel privileged to be amongst such loving people.

BB you were right! I always recommend writing it down as a way to burn off stress hormones. It usually works.

remaha - what can I say? You exalted me. That's a spectacular gift. Thank you so much.

Dogtired - thanks for the 'bodder' info! Frisky, you're lovely. Harvest - empathy is ALWAYS enough, especially yours. You've got an abundance of it. Celtic - that made me laugh out loud. I wish I knew how to do those graphics on a Mac!

Lynw, today mum put in a formal complaint to the LEA, backing up the original complaint to the governors she made 4 weeks ago, and which they haven't got round to yet. She's also put in a formal complaint to the Performance manager for the County schools. The EWO has been with her all day, helping, and I spoke to another friend of mine who has Asperger's and three children on the spectrum who has also been through the mill with educating HER youngest (gifted, autistic, CAPD) and who said that the behaviour of the headmaster was constructive exclusion, which is what mum's told the LEA. So the battle lines are now drawn, and we'll see what tomorrow brings. I don't think mum can cope with much more. Still, the 11-year-old is ecstatic because he's now learnt how to tie his school tie, and we're all celebrating.
xxx

There is an organisation which will go in and help parents with DDA issues, I think they have an advocacy service. I can't remember what they are called right now, but I can easily find out for you. If it is helpful.