Do Bullies Sometimes Need Our Help Too?Young Jamie is a very clever lad
and is very well known at his school. He thinks it’s pretty neat that he has lots of friends and he loves the way everyone in his
thinks he’s really
They always laugh really loudly at his jokes; even the ones he thinks are a bit rubbish
He’s captain of the
team too and he’s a very tall and athletic boy. Nobody ever messes with Jamie but it’s not because he’s bigger than them. He's just a very popular boy and this means all the kids want to be his best friend
and become a member of his
gang.
A while ago Jamie noticed one boy in his class, Tim, was always whinging
about things. Tim just seemed to be a bit of a pain to Jamie and he got on his nerves
So one day Jamie called Tim a 'wimp' in front of the class and made Tim
. The awful thing was that Jamie felt good seeing Tim cry and when the others laughed it made him feel even more pleased
with himself.
After that it became a habit for Jamie to
Tim. Others copied Jamie's example taking the
out of Tim. He was being pushed further out of the group
Gradually, Jamie began to gang up with the other
and they did even more horrible
things to Tim. One day they hid Tim’s new[img src="http://www.msnpro.com/Sports/Soccer/36_7_7[1].gif"] But it was a birthday
and so this time Tim decided he would
back. But it didn’t really help and he just ended up feeling more
and
afterwards.
Tim was becoming more and more desperate and felt so alone
but he still didn’t tell anyone about what was happening. Instead he hid away in his room and
a lot. He started to believe that he must deserve all the hurt he was feeling and became more and more
withdrawn. He felt like pretending he wasn't there
He just wished he could become
invisible. But of course, none of this was Tim’s fault at all. He had done nothing wrong. He certainly didn't deserve it, nobody ever deserves to be made to feel that way.
Jamie didn’t think too much about what he'd been doing to Tim until the day that the
told the class that Tim had been taken off to hospital in an
He'd tried to hurt himself in order to get away from the bullying.
Jamie was shocked
. Until then it had all just been a
giggle to him, just a bit of a
He hadn’t understood how it had made Tim feel. He didn’t realise Tim had taken it all so seriously. It made Jamie feel
and
about himself. He began to think he must not be normal to enjoy hurting someone. Lukily, Jamie had the good sense to make a
call to
ChildLine is there to help all children who have a problem they may need to talk to someone about. Jamie explained that he thought there must be something wrong with him. He knew it was wrong to enjoy hurting somebody.
The counsellor was great, really understanding. He talked to Jamie about his family
and about the fact that, whenever Jamie would
his dad would treat him just like he’d treated Tim. It helped Jamie appreciate how Tim must have felt when he’d done it to him. It even helped Jamie understand his dad a little better too. He could get hopping
mad at times, but that he still
loves Jamie. The counsellor encouraged Jamie to think of someone he trusted to talk to about everything. He turned to his favourite uncle who takes him to football each week. His uncle helped Jamie appreciate how much happier
and better he could feel about himself, if he was
kinder and helped people instead of putting them down. Jamie even went to see Tim and apologised to him. It wasn’t easy for him to say
but he now feels much better because he did.
Happily, Tim is much better now too. The
said he was very lucky and will be soon be
again. He knows he doesn't have to be afraid anymore. If only Tim had spoken to someone sooner, such as his
family, a friend, a
or even a counsellor at ChildLine then he might never have felt so alone that he wanted to hurt himself.
If you’re being bullied, you don’t need to feel alone either. You can do something about it. Don’t suffer in silence
and then give up, tell someone you trust. Its not being a 'grass' to tell. It’s very important to speak up
and get some support to help you decide what you want to happen next. And remember, your bully may need some help too, just like Jamie, so by telling you could even be helping them, as well as helping other kids who are also afraid to speak up about being bullied.
So, lets all say
to bullying and put a
back on everyones face.