OK I Did It

[juliejuliejulie]

ODM Good going hun

[battybetty]

As a non-smoker I can't help feeling a bit of a charlatan posting here. I hope I don't sound condescending because I genuinely have the greatest respect and admiration for those of you who have bitten the bullet and are trying and/or managing to quit the cigs. Im just here to add my words and cheers of support and encouragement. ;D

Funny seeing the different things that can motivate people to stop. 30 years ago, on Budget day, my dad decided to quit rather than let the tax man take a penny more of his cash. He'd been a 30 a day man from his National Service days but he literally never picked up another cigarette after that day.
I still can't decide if he was just one of the very lucky ones and had a will of iron or if he was just too tight-fisted and stubborn to give in. LOL
Anyway, the reason you decide to quit doesn't matter, just as long as it gets you to the desired result eh. As with most things, I do believe that finding the right motivation to suit your own personal circumstances is crucial to the chances of success; perhaps even more-so than finding the right helpful substitute etc. Although I think you should all take all the help you can get; patches, gum, the lot.

Well done everyone and Izzy ...you're an absolute diamond

GO GUYS GO!

[juliejuliejulie]

My dad is trying to stop smoking, when i say try i say that with a smirk, as he has been smoking i think since he was 15 and smokes about 30 a day i think well he always smokes, cant sit and watch tv as he is up, out the door (don't let him smoke in house, never have done) - he is out rain hail or snow - thats how much he loves a smoke, but anyway he promises he will stop, have gave him patches - but what does he do has a f*g (no will power,) so all the time he keeps saying this is the last one - we don't believe him - its not the fact that he has been warned by the doctors - as you can hear noises within his chest when he is breathing and if he doesnt stop then he will develop emphazema(sp) - so this doesnt even stop him and i would love my dad to live as long as possible but its like he doesnt want to know and he is only late 50's.......my grandad died of smoking i think when i was 12 but seemingly they kept telling us it was an ulcer, then as my grandmother never smoked in her entire life, she eventually got cancer in the throat (i know there is a word for it can't remember) but i think she got this *C* due to the fact my uncle when ever he visited would smoke like a lum and stink the house out till he left again, and he smoked cigars, i would blame mt grandfather as he died 12 yrs before, so while she was 80 she lived a full life always travelling here and there, and we eventually had to care for her, and believe me nothing can prepare you for someone who lived life to the full, to suddenly be bed ridden and seeing her ill - as she suffered from diabetes too so if she missed tabs it was even worse....anyway sorry just needed to share this

[odm]

juliejuliejulie said:

My dad is trying to stop smoking, when i say try i say that with a smirk, as he has been smoking i think since he was 15 and smokes about 30 a day i think well he always smokes, cant sit and watch tv as he is up, out the door (don't let him smoke in house, never have done) - he is out rain hail or snow - thats how much he loves a smoke, but anyway he promises he will stop, have gave him patches - but what does he do has a f*g (no will power,) so all the time he keeps saying this is the last one - we don't believe him - its not the fact that he has been warned by the doctors - as you can hear noises within his chest when he is breathing and if he doesnt stop then he will develop emphazema(sp) - so this doesnt even stop him and i would love my dad to live as long as possible but its like he doesnt want to know and he is only late 50's.......my grandad died of smoking i think when i was 12 but seemingly they kept telling us it was an ulcer, then as my grandmother never smoked in her entire life, she eventually got cancer in the throat (i know there is a word for it can't remember) but i think she got this *C* due to the fact my uncle when ever he visited would smoke like a lum and stink the house out till he left again, and he smoked cigars, i would blame mt grandfather as he died 12 yrs before, so while she was 80 she lived a full life always travelling here and there, and we eventually had to care for her, and believe me nothing can prepare you for someone who lived life to the full, to suddenly be bed ridden and seeing her ill - as she suffered from diabetes too so if she missed tabs it was even worse....anyway sorry just needed to share this

I would really have to reply to this post Julie. I did,nt find out until fairly recently that my great grandparents both died of the big C. I was under the impression that the G.Grandfather smoked, but was,nt sure about the G.Grandmother. Howver this is more about my dad who died in his late 50s. He smoked 200 fags a week as far back as I could remember and I know he tried to quit everytime I saw a packet of mints lying around.. he never did quit he died instead of a heart attack and it seriously affected me as I had not seen him for several years.( and I was due to )..he and my mother had parted years earlier. I could go into this story but I would be passing the tissues around. Theres has been lots of sad stuff if you know what I mean...I put it in a little bag somewhere inside and try never to remember it is there.
I have two children who I love very much, my two boys. When I was ill recently, I might not have mentioned that I had been ill for most of this year...I get asthma and I also have a problem with indigestion. Have to take those Rennie tablets a lot. Well when I get colds, it steps up the asthma and I could,nt stop coughing. It was so bad I woke every three hours and could not put my head down at night. I would get up coughing and throwing up until i drew blood. I really was,nt joking that I was pretty ill. Well I kept going and doing all this stuff and I was singing as well. I dont know how I did it I just dont. But, I got so bad in recent times, I could not breathe. I would just cough like a car accelerator..and run out of breath. The very last time that happened was at the very beginning of September and I managed to get to the kitchen and I was on my knees and I was sick. I went to the doctor and had antibiotics and he threatened me with lung cancer and all the rest and had absolutely not a shred of sympathy or even time for me if I was honest with you and I felt SO angry that he discriminated against a smoker as I was so darn ill.
The inhaled smoke is something I am allergic too and has caused the asthma...btw.
Well I have not smoked since September 3rd... I have put on a few pounds which pees me off for stagework, but I have two boys...and this is the question anyone has to ask themself if they smoke...DO YOU WANT TO BE PARTY TO KILLING YOURSELF? Well if I died and robbed my sons of their own mother because I could not get the will power to stop smoking what kind of mother would I be? Do you not think there is not a day I dont miss my dad? I was already sad when my parents parted, I sort of lost my dad then as he went off met and married someone else, but I lost him for good when he died...heart attack, too much smokin, too much drinking...R.I.P. Daddy.

So you see though I loved my ciggies for thinking, walking, talking, reading and whatever, I love my two boys more...and I dont want to think of the day when they feel like I did over my dad because I could not control a habit. Secondly, my whole health has improved quite a bit now as I dont cough, I can breath properly and I know that I have done something positive for the love of my children...

it is hard kicking a habit, but the reasons can be powerful as mine were...and also I never want to be in the situation where I could not breathe, very very frightening...and to think, I did that to myself...

I had to give up cold turkey because of my indigestion probs..you cannot take patches with indi problems. But if you give up cold turkey for a few days its best not to take patches as you are only re introducing nicotine to your system.

Good luck to everyone who wants to give it a go...I shall definately be thinking of you

Ps. Hugs and Loves to JulieXXX and thanx to BB and all who have been so thoughtful and encouraging..You are the best you lot...thats a factxxx

Hav,nt been around for a bit btw but something been brewing shall enlighten you all when I know what is what...!!!! family stuffxxx

[battybetty]

Julie hon, you're not alone sweetheart. You're brave for telling us about such a sad time in your life. I know just how it feels and there are many other people who have suffered the tragic consequences of passive smoking as well as losing loved ones to smoking itself. I'm glad you're gran managed to have a long and happy life before she went and I hope your dad manages to stop really soon. xxx

Izzy, I can't tell you how glad I am that you have managed to stop when you did. I know it wouldn't just be your family who would miss you if you had allowed your health to deteriorate any further.
Thank you for sharing your story, I relate to it on so many levels. I won't repeat them again here, since my post in the 'smoking debate' thread already pretty much explained. Suffice to say, Ive seen too much wasted life to smoking related diseases already and you're far, far to special to be risking shortening your life by a single day, so I'm very happy.
It was clearly a very scary way for you to reach the point of stopping but it doesn't matter how or why you eventually got there, I'm only glad that you did and I'm just as certain that you'll be a fantastic source of inspiration to everyone still battling against their own habit . xxxx

[princesszelda]

bluebellberries said:

I signed up for the *stop smoking class* next Wednesday,i feel withdrawal symtoms already

Good Luck BlueBellBEriies.
Around ov a plause for Blueberries"
*Claps with glee*

[silenthill]

I've been meaning to ask her if she got around to it in the end

[Harvestgoddess]

*Thinks about giving up * soon maybe

[silenthill]

harvestgoddess said:

*Thinks about giving up * soon maybe

Go for it hun, you've got nothing to lose by trying, does your mum smoke?

[Harvestgoddess]

;D Yes SH nearly everyone i know smokes but im entertaining the thought allthough its more when i drink il have a problem maybe if i only smoke when i drink