Something on your mind?

[gwenyth]

know just where youre coming from Miss Lead - I'm older than you but also find I sometimes rather enjoy not giving a fig what I wear etc - but some of time - need to see that therapist too - however happy to report - sometimes there is life after menopause - hang on in there
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[smoif]

You've all been helping with my depression for the last couple of months, even though you didn't even know it.

Thanks for this thread SH. I'm sure I'll be back soon.

[silenthill]

smoif said:

You've all been helping with my depression for the last couple of months, even though you didn't even know it.

Thanks for this thread SH. I'm sure I'll be back soon.

((hugs))

If you ever want a chat with someone about your depression in private send me a PM, I've been there a lot, over the last few years especially.

[tillybud]

i'm thinking about it... i got issues =/ .. i know i need pointing in the right direction at least.. but i'm new.. and if i start.. where do i stop.... hmmmm... i'll probably come back here further down the line

[MissLead]

gwenyth said:

know just where youre coming from Miss Lead - I'm older than you but also find I sometimes rather enjoy not giving a fig what I wear etc - but some of time - need to see that therapist too - however happy to report - sometimes there is life after menopause - hang on in there
x

I am, I am, I'm hanging on in there...and I'm beginning to appreciate also that it doesn't actually matter much what I wear any more - it's quite a nice feeling sometimes, that, other times it's like.... of what the future mirror holds I'm beginning to really get to grips now with what 'change of life' really means...'change of lifestyle' more like, no point in going for long shopping trips any more to find that perfect outfit - no matter what I've on me, I'm an old bag anyway so what's the point! heh!

[celticsky]

misslead said:

gwenyth said:

know just where youre coming from Miss Lead - I'm older than you but also find I sometimes rather enjoy not giving a fig what I wear etc - but some of time - need to see that therapist too - however happy to report - sometimes there is life after menopause - hang on in there
x

I am, I am, I'm hanging on in there...and I'm beginning to appreciate also that it doesn't actually matter much what I wear any more - it's quite a nice feeling sometimes, that, other times it's like.... of what the future mirror holds I'm beginning to really get to grips now with what 'change of life' really means...'change of lifestyle' more like, no point in going for long shopping trips any more to find that perfect outfit - no matter what I've on me, I'm an old bag anyway so what's the point! heh!

Hey, hang on a minute you are just a little bit older than me so you cannot possibly be an "old bag" because if you are then very soon I will be as well and thats not acceptable.......age is a state of mind and I'm all of 21( ok face looks 90), women are so pressurized about youth, looks etc, but I like my face, yes I have wrinkles, to me they are hard earned trophies of the hard times I've survived, I would never want to lose them Hell I earned each and every one of them. Do any of us ladies of "a certain age" want to be running around dressed like teenagers today...I don't, been there done that, now its comfort all the way and have you seen the way they freeze for fashions sake, madness I tell you. We should all be proud of ourselves for what we have contributed, the children we raised, the jobs we took and all the things that each of us continues to do to make the world a better place in our own individual ways.....ok time to get off soapbox...ooops stumbles over my left foot...maybe need to start a thread especially for us more mature women ;D

[swanwitch]

Life doesn't end at the menopause! I met the man of my dreams just before I hit 51 and we've got the best relationship I'v ever experienced. I had to move 150 miles and give up my cosy employment niche to be with him, but it was all worth it.

[beajie]

I had suspected ovarian cancer 10 years ago, at 51. It was a big deal. A really big deal. I was hauled into hozzie immediately - just after Christmas - and had an emergency radical hysterectomy. I wasn't allowed to leave hospital afterwards because my tumour was in biopsy, along with one other woman's. They told me I might die. They were very very serious.
Then they gave the results. I was in the clear. The other woman died in four weeks.
I went on to fall in love, madly, and inappropriately, but it worked for a while. I hadn't got most of my innards, but the feelings and effect were the same.
Since then, I've valued every second of my crazy life.
I'm just glad to be here. Maybe if I stop smoking roll ups I'll be here for a while longer
I'm still a size 10/12. But you know what? I'd be happy to be a bigger lady, just to celebrate the fact that I've outlived an almost death sentence for a couple of weeks.
What does it matter how big or small we are? We're alive. It's a good feeling.

[silenthill]

beajie said:

I had suspected ovarian cancer 10 years ago, at 51. It was a big deal. A really big deal. I was hauled into hozzie immediately - just after Christmas - and had an emergency radical hysterectomy. I wasn't allowed to leave hospital afterwards because my tumour was in biopsy, along with one other woman's. They told me I might die. They were very very serious.
Then they gave the results. I was in the clear. The other woman died in four weeks.
I went on to fall in love, madly, and inappropriately, but it worked for a while. I hadn't got most of my innards, but the feelings and effect were the same.
Since then, I've valued every second of my crazy life.
I'm just glad to be here. Maybe if I stop smoking roll ups I'll be here for a while longer
I'm still a size 10/12. But you know what? I'd be happy to be a bigger lady, just to celebrate the fact that I've outlived an almost death sentence for a couple of weeks.
What does it matter how big or small we are? We're alive. It's a good feeling.

beajie, I hope you don't mind me asking, why did they suspect you had ovarian cancer, did you have any symptoms or problems in that area?

The reason I ask is that I've had a lot of problems in that area, I've had scans, samples taken and a laproscopy but nothing abnormal except for cysts on my ovaries was found, I felt like my doctors/gynaecologists gave up, they told me there was nothing more they could do and so I gave up too, but I'm in a mess as I cannot lead a normal life as I am and I'm getting fed up with it all.

I've now moved and got new doctors who have said they would like to start from scratch with tests, there is always that nagging feeling with me that it could be something serious but I feel that they have ruled out any possibilty of something serious as I am 27 and it is rare for people of my age to have cancer in that area.

[beajie]

They never listened to me, either. I'd had years of problems. And it was only when my tumour was huge enough to see, and really painful (morphine had to be given on Christmas Day) that they took notice.
I had lots of gynae investigations over 20 years. No one did anything, much.
The tumour, finally, was the size of a football.
It was benign, so I'm not complaining. But it was nasty, and had started to twist and necrose. That was the cause of the pain. That was why I had to lose so much of my innards - peritoneum, appendix, as well as womb, ovaries,fallopians., and cervix (sadly). A big big deal. I'd had so many investigations and D&Cs that I thought I had myself covered.
How silly. I didn't have a clue about how bad it could get.
But at least it was benign.
I'm alive. How good is that?